How being a Workaholic could Wreck your Marriage
It isn’t healthy to be a workaholic, as your whole life is taken over by the compulsion to work. As with any addiction, you are unable to focus on anything else but the thing you’re addicted to and your family life and personal relationships suffer, as does your health. You lose all sense of direction and seem to have no reason to live, apart from work. Yet, you live a miserable existence, as your work is never good enough and you’re lonely for the most part. You can’t seem to snap out of it, even though it is this way of living which appears to be wrecking your marriage.
It is easy to see why being a workaholic could wreck a marriage, since marriage should be a partnership, but if your partner is never there, who do you have to confide in and share your life with? If your partner is always at work you have to make decisions for yourself and you may as well be living alone for the amount of time you get to spend with each other.
Of course, when a couple is just starting out, it is usually the husband who works long hours, especially if there is a baby on the way, in order to make ends meet. This is understandable, but there is a difference between putting in the hours because you need the money and working excessively long hours because you can’t seem to stop yourself.
Whether or not you have children, being a workaholic could wreck your marriage because you lose sight of why you’re working. Instead of working to live, you seem to live for work. There is surely more to life than work, but you become fixated on putting in more hours than anyone else in the office and getting promotion and your name known. You don’t think about the repercussions for your family life. Indeed, working all the time may be one way of avoiding the realities of being married.
When you’re at work you don’t have to deal with the arguments or worry what the other person is thinking, as it’s all about you. However, if you’ve made a commitment to someone you can’t just expect them to wait at home patiently for you just so you can ‘deal’ with your issues by working all the time. There is usually a reason behind an addiction to work and you really have to make an effort to discover what it is so you can do something to change the situation and hopefully avoid destroying your marriage.
