Best Person when your best Man is a Woman
This can be looked at two different ways: What do I do when my best man is a woman and what do I do if I am the woman asked to be a best man?
It seems to be something that is becoming more and more popular, having the opposite sex play that special role in your wedding party. My best friend and I are both at a point where we are planning to get married soon and both plan on having each other as our Man of Honour and Best Woman. Being the female of the two of us I have some ideas and tips to pass on as I begin to plan the parties and start with the nerves.
The Stag PartyThis is a pretty big deal and chances are that if you are the groom's best friend there might already have been a bit of tension (or perhaps jealousy) between you and the Bride to be. Keep this in mind but don't let it prevent you from throwing him a great party. It is almost assumed because of movies and even in the way they talk that men would want a stripper at their bachelor party. Try not to make this assumption, always ask first. I ended up finding out that neither my best friend or boyfriend want a stripper. Plan the party around his interests; if he's into sports see if you can find tickets (look for group rates!) to a game that they are playing. Run your ideas past the other guys. Although you may be the best friend, chances are they will think of things that you may not thought of.
The WeddingThe best advice to give is be yourself. You're the Best woman for a reason! Say what he needs to hear, and if you have time try to find the bride and wish her well before the ceremony starts... It would mean a lot to me if I were the bride. Reassurance is key!
The Man That Asks:
Traditional vs. ModernIf this is an option for your wedding be sure to talk to the bride to about it first. Make sure she is ok with having another girl up there that means a lot to you. Even if you don't think this applies to you do it anyway, jealousy can strike over the strangest thigs. Some upset can stir around the fact that this would ideally be going against traditional wedding rituals, but have fun with it. Go to the nines and put your woman of honour in a tuxedo, throw a hat on her and tuck all her hair in and maybe even put a mustache on her... Have fun with it. Don't feel that because you are asking a woman that she needs to wear something manly, a very simple dress to match the colour of the groomsmen is also a very good option, or even something business looking with a collar to make it obvious that she is representing the groom. Let your decisions reflect your relationship with both your best friend and your wife to be and have fun!
