Being the best, best man
At first glance, it appears that the female gender takes the cake when it comes to wedding preparation, but don’t let that fool you. The best man has a very important roll to fill, and it isn’t just planning the bet bachelor party ever. The best man also is responsible for providing moral support to the groom as well as helping with tux rentals, giving a speech for the reception and ring duties. The best man should do his best to assist the groom so that things run smoothly.
The bachelor party is the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to the best man duties, that one last hoorah before the groom takes the plunge. It is important to give the groom a bachelor party that he will enjoy and tailor it to his interests as well as make sure he won’t get into any trouble with his bride to be over the activities. It is also important to consider the budget of those involved and figure out the best way to have a good time with the money available.
While tuxedo renting does not have the glamour or finesse of dress shopping, it is still a crucial detail. A good best man helps the groom make sure that everyone gets their fittings in and has their tuxes rented well before the wedding so there are not any snags. Whether it is planning a day together with the guys or passing along the information to the other groomsmen, ushers and ring barrers, it is best to stay on top of things so that the groom and bride have one less thing to worry about.
The ring is a crucial part of the ceremony and it is best to not lose it while it is in your possession. Keep it in a safe place that is preplanned so you know exactly where you are going to be pulling it from. It is a good idea to keep nothing else in that pocket so that you are not fumbling around at the alter trying to fight whatever else is in your pocket to get the ring out.
One of the biggest pressures of being the best man is most notably the speech. Standing in front of a room full of people and giving a speech is rarely easy. The best, best man speeches are ones that contain a bit of light hearted yet appropriate humor as well as a few touching moments. Make the speech personal and include both the bride and groom in it. While wrote memorizing can come off as a bit impersonal, it is best to have a good grasp of what you are planning to say and practice in front of a mirror several times so things run smoothly. Waiting till the last minute and winging it can leave you in front of a crowd stuttering. Also, if there is alcohol at the wedding it is a good idea to keep in mind that you are going to be making a public appearance with a microphone in your hand and a spotlight on you.
Providing moral support to the groom is probably the most over looked and the most important role of a best man. Weddings are stressful and getting married is even more stressful. There will be times where the groom needs a shoulder to lean on and someone to vent their frustrations. Make sure that you are there for the groom in those times. If he is struggling with something, do your best to lighten the load for him. A wedding is one of those moments in a person’s life that are memorably significant and it is your job to make sure that the groom can enjoy his wedding to its fullest.
