ALT-3 How to Protect yourself from the Bridezilla Syndrome
Bridezilla, in case you don't know means a 'Bride from Hell' or at least that's my interpretation. An American series of the name Bridezilla is currently running on digital British Television. Although it is not something which I especially watch, I think most of us have come across a Bridezilla, at one time or another.
IF YOU ARE OR ARE IN DANGER OF BECOMING A BRIDEZILLA
One thing you need to get into your head is the fact that the whole world does not know you are getting married and nor do they want to. When your husband to be popped the question, you gleefully cried 'Yes' and he slipped that engagement ring on your finger, time did not standstill. The world carried on turning and much more important and relevant occurrences kept happening.
Now, having said that it does not mean that people, especially friends and family, aren't truly happy for you. However you can't expect them to feel the same as you and get so totally caught up in your wedding plans. So tips to prevent you becoming a Bridezilla are:-
Get a grip and get things into perspective.
Keep that caring and gentle nature.
Plan well for your wedding but don't let it become all consuming.
Aim to have a happy wedding day. That means you, your partner and your guests.
Spend within your limits, so that you don't start of married life burdened with debt or worse still put your family into debt.
Don't expect or demand gifts. Great presents are a bonus but not a god given right.
Consider other , such as your parents and partner, in your planning.
Don't bore the pants of everyone by constantly rabbiting on about your wedding.
If you think that you are getting obsessive and compulsive about your wedding take some time out and do something completely different.
Remember that you are marrying your man because you love him, so treat him well during the run up to your wedding. If not, he may have second thoughts and run off. Could you blame him?.Don't get stressed beyond reasonable limits .
Remember your wedding may be your 'Big day' but it should also be 'The happiest day of your life' and a joyful experience for all concerned.
IF YOU HAVE A FRIEND, RELATIVE OR PARTNER WHO IS BECOMING A BRIDEZILLA.
You are not really doing her any favours by letting her run riot and enabling her to terrorise and bully everyone. Point out in no uncertain terms what they are doing. Often when people are caught up in their own exciting event they don't really mean to behave as badly as they do.
Gently try and steer them in the right direction. You don't have to be cruel but supportive and helpful when advising.
A final thought though. If your bride to be is being thoroughly obnoxious and trampling all over everyone's feelings you may want to consider why you are marrying her in the first place and whether you still want to.
