Dealing with a Bridezilla
Bridesmaids who are in a bridezilla’s wedding have their work cut out for them. It is extremely difficult to serve someone who is demanding, rude, and impossible to please. Smart bridesmaids follow a few tips to keep their cool when a bridezilla’s temper runs high.
Respect the bride and respect yourself
While you strive to support and help the bridezilla, it is important to not let her walk all over you. Respecting yourself and the bridezilla can be a difficult balance to achieve, especially as the wedding draws closer and stress increases. If the bridezilla is disrespectful, there is nothing wrong with taking her aside and sharing your feelings with her. Don’t withdraw from the bridezilla completely but don’t accept her to mistreat you either.
Take a break and breathe deeply
Sometimes all that’s needed to reduce stress is to temporarily step away from the situation. Tell the bridezilla you need to take a break and go into another room, call a friend, have a glass of water, or practice deep breathing exercises. Chances are the bridezilla will benefit from a break as well.
Ask the bridezilla about her priorities for the wedding
When dealing with a difficult person, it can be helpful to find out what pushes their buttons the most and how they define success. The better you can manage potential problems, the less crazy the bridezilla will act.
Share the burden
While many bridezillas find fault with everyone involved with the wedding, she may also target one particular bridesmaid who is bearing the brunt of the bad moods. If this is the case, that bridesmaid could ask other bridesmaids, family members, and friends to interact with the bridezilla and share the burden of the wedding responsibilities.
Take care of yourself
One of the best ways to get through a wedding with a bridezilla is to get enough sleep, schedule free time away from the bridezilla, and lean on your support system in the months and weeks leading up to the wedding. Go to the spa, get your nails done, or spend time with family and friends and avoid conversation about the wedding or the bridezilla.
Remember that the wedding is just a short event in the course of your friendship with the bride. Determine that your friendship can withstand the stress of the wedding, and you are on the road to preserving that friendship even if your friend has morphed into a bridezilla.
