Bridesmaids Bridezilla Crazy out of Control Weddings Summer Spring Tips help
Weddings can be a wonderful, happy day for many. For a bride, it is the day she's always dreamed of. For some of her friends, it is the day they are finally relieved has come. Dealing with a "bridezilla" - a bride who is difficult, unpleasant, and usually irrational - is a unwanted reality of many weddings. Many brides, consumed with the stresses and details of their weddings, often take out these frantic emotions on those closest: the bridesmaids. As a bridesmaid, there are several ways to stay sane and make it through the wedding in one piece.
1. Stay calm, and smile.
Despite any irrationalities that are spewing from said bridezilla's mouth, do your best to shut your mouth and smile. Nodding doesn't hurt either. Trying to argue or reason with the bride may cause more anxiety and drama. Usually things can be done the bride's way, and despite protests from her bridal party she is likely to go through with her plans. So, unless they involve fire dancers or sword swallowers, it is best to keep mute on your opinions. Which leads to the second tip.
2. Don't gossip or complain to anyone within the party.
Even if you feel like you might burst, under no circumstances should you share these feelings with the rest of the maids. Unless it can be resolved in a mature manner, it will only add fuel to the overall frustration of the group. Not to mention that if the bride finds out a meltdown is inevitable. Stick to non-mutual friends and distant parties to vent frustrations. Or the family dog.
3. If all hope seems lost, negotiate.
If the bride is expecting you to suddenly shell out $500 for a Marilyn Monro 'do for the big day, it's not out of line for you to take her aside and discuss an alternative if your funds are lacking. Despite being an irrational beast, bridezillas are - usually - not heartless. Remember, deep down the bride is still a good friend of yours. Be careful not to overstep, though. Asking to do your own hair is a far step from asking to bring a different dress.
4. Remember that one day, she will likely be in your shoes.
If not for your own wedding, there is chance the bride will be a bridesmaid, or take part in another wedding (even if it is not until her daughter's). It is the natural cycle of weddings, and most will have to bear this cross once in their life.
The most important thing to remember is that the bride will return to a sane, rational human being after the wedding. Weddings are full of stresses and minute details that she must oversea, and having a supportive group of bridesmaids is the best remedy to the madness.
