ALT-3 Dating should Men or Women take the first Initiative – Women
I believe that it doesn't really matter who takes control, just as long as someone steps up to the plate. In today's society, the views and opinions on being a woman in a relationship have changed drastically over the years.
Just because it is seen as masculine to be the aggressor in a relationship, why should we stand by those stereotypes? When I first found myself dating my husband, I was the aggressor in the relationship. I often think that if I had not taken the first initiative that night, we would still be looking at each other wondering what to do. There is nothing wrong with a woman being aggressive in the relationship.
Even now it isn't just the men proposing to the women, but ladies often find themselves being the one to pop the question. Should we think this is wrong? I know if you had asked my grandmother she would have probably told you that it was wrong, and that it was a mans place to do the proposing. Why is it we have these stereotypes and can we change the way people think about relationships and the role that women play in them?
Many times you will find a woman wanting to make the first move, but is she is to scared of what the man will think of her. I can tell you that if he is into you, then it will not matter who it is taking that first step. When two people want to get more involved in a relationship, it will not go further unless it is a wanting of both people. Therefore it shouldn't matter who starts the process, just as long as the process begins.
Men shouldn't want a woman who lets them be in control all the time. A man should want an independent woman who isn't afraid of grabbing life, or her man, by the reins. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to take the first initiative, and I would suggest it! If it's what you want then do it! Why wait for a man to have to step up and do something you could have done yourself!
So ladies, if you are in a relationship and waiting for him to make the first move, why wait? You are capable of taking the initiative to possibly starting something that may turn out to be absolutely amazing. Then fifty years down the road when you are telling your love story to your grandkids, don't forget to throw in the part about how you made the first move and put the whole thing into play!
