ALT-1 What to do if your best Man Bails
A person's wedding day is often thought of as one of the most special and emotional milestones in a person's life. In many cases, a couple will decide to invite close friends or family members to serve as a part of a traditional bridal party and take part in wedding activities and any related wedding day ceremonies.
Although it is extremely special for someone to invite you to be a part of their bridal party, some individuals simply do not perceive weddings to be so significant. And, in some unfortunate cases, for a variety of different reasons, the individual designated as "Best Man" will bail.
Your wedding day is your special day, and if someone isn't willing or wanting to be a part of it, then they shouldn't be forced to do so. Even still, bailing on a commitment last minute is a pretty un-friendly thing to do and while this may cause conflict, tension, and awkward moments pre-ceremony, you shouldn't let this wedding day drawback rain on your parade!
If your best man bails on your wedding day, think about promoting one of the ushers in your bridal party. Chances are, if you have an extensive party, you'll certainly have some loyal friends who have stuck beside you on your big day. So, explain the circumstances and ask if they'd step up. It may seem last minute, but true, good friends in your bridal party are sure to understand.
Otherwise, if your father is alive, you might want to consider asking him to step in place. Some grooms decide to place lifelong friends in the role of best man, finding other positions for beloved family members. Ask one of these. Surely in dire circumstances, someone in your extended family will be willing to fill in for your former best man.
As a last resort, you can also ask one of your bride's friends or family members to step in. The point of a wedding party is to have close friends, family members, and general loved ones as a part of a special ceremony, so the identification logistics really don't matter, as long as the people who are up there beside the happy couple are all there for the same reason: to bless their sacred union.
Overall, while having your best man bail on your last minute on your wedding might cause an irreparable rip in your friendship, you shouldn't let it ruin one of the most special days of your life, and your first day as half of a married couple.
