Why it is better to Propose Marriage in Person – In person
A marriage proposal should never be taken lightly by a man, because he is in a very privileged (or risky) position; he has the power to make or break every woman's daydream. It should be a moment which demonstrates many things, from love to good intentions. Each reason for asking someone to marry you should be shown through the act of doing so. If the reason you are marrying someone is because you feel you cannot speak your feelings to them face to face, you are embarrassed by how you feel towards them, or they make you so uncomfortable you might not get the words out, then most definitely write them a letter. There are a multitude of reasons, however, why this is not the best way to demonstrate your love and commitment.
Marriage is all about love and a proposal should be a demonstration of this love. Women fantasize about romantic settings and situations - and for very good reason. Romance is intrinsically linked to love and was born through a need to show someone how you feel. This moment should be seen as an opportunity to be romantic and do something extraordinary and thoughtful, something that is memorable. It is arguable that there is nothing more memorable than something that lasts forever, like a letter, but surely this moment, if carried out with love and consideration, can last just as long.
The person you intend to marry should be the one person you are closest to, someone you share intimate moments with every day. Your marriage proposal should demonstrate this intimacy, and be a moment in which you are together and sharing something precious. Talking to each other and looking into each other's eyes is surely more intimate than leaving an envelope on the side, and your loved one alone to read its contents.
One of the most special aspects of a marriage proposal should be that it is something that the two of you can always remember together. If one of you is only there as words on a page, you miss out on that sharing of the moment. You should enjoy saying the words, seeing the reaction, shedding a tear, laughing and sharing that special, life changing moment.
Men are not always the best as showing how they feel, or going that extra mile, but this is an opportunity to do just that. It is a moment to put in that extra effort and do something spectacular. A letter may take a bit of time to construct, but is not that spectacular. I wouldn't be able to help feeling a tiny bit disappointed.
Who am I to discuss marriage proposals? I am one of those women who dream about this moment, it happens in a million different ways when I play it in my mind.
It has never once involved a letter.
