What Kind of Things are not Good to Buy a Girl
If you're reading this chances are you have to buy a present for your girlfriend and are completely stuck on ideas. Any guy who has had a girlfriend for any length of time will be able to tell you that shopping for her is a very frustrating experience. My guy friends have often related it to being in front of a firing squad in that either you walk away completely unharmed, or you're dead.
While I think that may be a little over dramatic, as a girl, I can assure you that the present that you give her will make you one of either two things: the greatest boyfriend in the world that all the other girls envy or the worst boyfriend in the world that all the girls think is a jerk. Either way your girlfriend will tell all her girlfriends about it and they will tell all their girlfriends about it. We talk guys, and we talk endlessly, especially if we think the guy is a jerk.
So, while I can't tell you what to get her I can tell you from a female prospective what gifts are destined to fail.
1. Cleaning Supplies. This really should be a given, but I know guys who have done it and so I am telling you. Do not under any circumstances get your girlfriend cleaning supplies. It doesn't matter if she lives with you or not, the last thing that your girl wants is to feel like a maid. Mops, brooms, irons, anything like that will be considered very rude and get you nothing but a possible s
2. Weight loss stuff. Yes, this should be a given too, however, I have seen it happen. When you give your girl a present it is to make her feel special and to tell her that you love her. Anything that would make her feel unattractive to you is a big no-no. It will hurt her feelings terribly and cause you to look like a jerk.
3. Sports Stuff. Unless you know for sure that your girl is an avid sports fan, then stay away from the sports stuff. Likelihood is that if she isn't really all that into sports the gift will be thrown away and it will look like you put absolutely no thought into what you bought. Seriously guys, she may be all smiles out the out side but inside she's thinking "He must have been shopping for himself and decided to get me something so he didn't feel like a jerk. Hate to tell you this dumb dumb but it didn't work, you're still a jerk, wait until I tell Susan about this..."
4. Anything that you may find practical. Okay, for all you practical dudes out there, when you buy your girl a gift, it is not supposed to be practical, it's supposed to be something that she can cherish. Things like cell phone accessories, computer accessories or anything that you think that she can "use" are not necessarily a good idea. Those are things that you can buy for her on any regular day. However for special occasions get something pretty.
5. Lingerie. Okay guys, any under garments that she gets are best left for her to pick out. Seriously, if you come home with a big bag from Victoria Secret its doubtful she will really appreciate it. Especially if you get the wrong size, body shape and color. Again she may smile on the outside, but inside side she's thinking " What, I'm not good enough for him now? Does he need me to look like the models to be attractive to him? What was he doing in there anyway?" Getting her lingerie is a lot like getting her weight loss stuff, it does absolutely nothing for her and makes you look like a jerk.
6. Anything with a negative character trait. We have all seen the shirts and other items that have words like brat, spoiled, high maintenance, and drama queen written on them. Things like these are not a good idea. While she may laugh at them while you two are together, she does not want one as a present. If she opens up a gift with something like that written on it chances are it will make her feel horrible about herself. It also opens her up to a lot of bad jokes and maybe even criticism from her friends. For example they may say things like "Maybe it's a hint you shouldn't be so spoiled" or "Maybe high maintenance means he is tired of being around you all the time and is trying to drop a hint." Anything that has a negative meaning to it or could be taken to have a negative meaning is a huge no-no.
In conclusion, buying a gift for your girl can be no big deal, just pay attention to her in the weeks before her birthday or any holiday she will drop clues as to what she really wants. Also, you can never go wrong with home made gifts. Cook her dinner, make her a bath, take her to see that movie she has been dying for. How about throwing her a surprise party with all her family and friends? Just anything that lets her know that you love her and that you were paying attention to her. For us ladies, the best gift of all is something that we can always cherish. So guys put a little thought into it and don't be afraid to ask for help from her friends (provided they know not to tell her what the present is. You don't want to ask the biggest blabber mouth of the group for present idea).
