What’s the best way to Propose Marriage – In person
The institution of marriage; the union of two persons, is probably the most intimate relationship between two persons. Traditionally, after some period of courting, the party desirous of making the request of marriage requests a blessing from the second party's father. Armed with familial blessing, love and an engagement ring, a marriage proposal is made. Historically a huge majority of marriage proposals are done in person; eye to eye, as it were honoring the sanctity and intimacy of the "til death do us part" marital vow.
Proposing in person, rather than via a letter, offers the opportunity for the two parties to share a moment destined to change both lives forever whether the answer is, "yes, I'll marry you;" or "no, I'm sorry." Communication is crucial to all relationships and I wager those who engage in a verbal engagement request have the entire scenario leading to the request burned into their respective memories. Though I am a writer, it would be more difficult to have a comprehensive engagement memory if said request is made via letter rather than shared together by two people in love. That said, an offer of marriage could be enhanced if the person proposing jotted a note expressing even more of their feelings for the other party than were verbally shared; what a special memory could be forged in this manner. I must admit, however, having no experience with letter marriage proposals and would be curious as to who actually utilizes this format, along with the period of time such marriages last.
Statistically, almost no one proposes via letter, or those who do proffer marriage via letter do not own up to it when polled. The in person proposal is one thing the myriad advances in technology should not be allowed to touch. How many people would find it romantic to receive an email or letter requesting marriage? The 21st century prognosticators believe society is becoming less personal and, actually believe there is a place for the letter proposal. I could not disagree more, as the person one might opt to spend his/her life with should be a person the other is extremely comfortable with and understands the foibles of. It's quite a simple equation: ostensibly those planning an engagement know one another as well, if not better than many persons secure the opportunity to spend such time.
While in romance mode, males are likely to work toward sweeping the other from his/her feet. The memories made in a verbal engagement will last a lifetime, serving as word blocks building the first memory of what will be a new family.
