ALT-8 Worst Reasons to Marry
I would say that out of every four or five marriages, only one, is even close enough in fulfilling its true purpose! People get married for many reasons and often, those people do not realize exactly why they are doing it!
Our lack of self understanding, can play havoc in a relationship! We have a tendency to project our ideals and our egos on to people, thus creating a lot of confusion for them! Once an attachment has been made with a person, it is often difficult for them to shake us off their backs! We tend to fly head long into marriage, hoping that the other party will pick up the pieces at a later point in time. The strange thing about this, is that we don't often know what we are doing.
Sometimes, we see the strength in other people, that we are looking for in ourselves. Life can be a strange vehicle and it is more often than not, that we develop a need for other people to fix our own problems. Some marriages can be a roller coaster ride! Some will survive and some will not! It usually depends upon the purpose, of the laying of the initial foundation blocks, for that relationship.
People are often attracted to others, through negativity! We are good at recognizing, OUR bad qualities in others and this continues on with a cycle, that is tough to break. There is no doubt, that life is a learning ground for us all; it is just unfortunate, that people have to suffer and learn life's lessons the hard way, at the expense of others.
There are many, many reasons why we get involved with others; Be it on an emotional level or out of material need!
Many people marry for money! As long as there is money available and plenty of it, then that marriage will last! However, when material values, take precedence, over a relationship and one of the parties concerned, requires something more, on an emotional and loving level; then the foundation of the marriage starts to sink, into an irretrievable dive! The truth comes out and one person wants a very ugly two-way split, or more! Both parties move on, as if it were a business gone wrong and their children, suffer the consequences! Sounds familiar!?
Some, marry out of revenge, to get one up, on a jealous party. There may be two or three contenders, waiting in the wings and when one slips up, another makes the move and proposes. In the confusion of it all, the person concerned, agrees to a marriage, to get back or even, with another. This type of marriage, will most likely result in multiple affairs, of a tabloid magnitude!
The list goes on! The reasons are almost endless! Life is full of confusion, fast and wrong decisions and a lot of misunderstanding! If we could just slow down, look at ourselves, get a little more grounded and take a good look at our values, before we get involved in other people's lives, then we would save everyone a whole lot of time, money and emotional abuse.
Just remember! We always reap what we sow!
