ALT-5 Worst Reasons to Marry
Unfortunately the decision to marry can't be pondered over a Pro and Con list, this is why some people believe in pre-marriage counseling, pre-nups and pre-therapy but if so happens that you are about to get married for one of the following reasons you should stop right now because then all those "pre" will charge at you like wild horses.
1. The "Love will fix anything" school of thought. You know your significant other drinks, does drugs, loves extreme sports or is a party animal, but when they are with you, you feel you can't live without them. "Love will fix it", "I'll change him or her". Rule number one: If you want to marry someone is because you love them exactly how they are.
2. To cheat the system. Everybody saw the movie Greencard. It isn't so easy or romantic and most likely could get you in jail.
3. Financial advantages. If you marry because you will get a discount on life insurance or something similar forget it. A divorce costs more. Or worse, your fiance has the bucks and he or she will guarantee a carefree life. It's OK to fake a little love no?
4. Age. If you're past your 20's or 30's you begin to feel like a cat lady or a dirty old man. You seal a deal to avoid being labeled.
5. You believe that once you sign the paper, the other person will belong to you forever. It's not about staying together through thick and thin, it's the assurance that the ceremony of signing this paper will give you and you feel that without it, he or she can walk away whenever they feel like it.
6. You marry on impulse. You just met, you feel you were made for each other, you spend a long romantic and passionate weekend, you ask nothing else, and you elope. Next day you discover the rest of that person's life. Some people have found each other and just knew, but it doesn't hurt to wait a little and get to know the person.
7. You marry because you want the world to know and approve of what you're doing.People through huge parties, spend outrageous amounts of money, invite hundreds of acquaintances, you want to appear in the "who's who" section of your local newspaper and you want to believe in your heart that you are complying with society's and religion's rules.
Think before you say "I do", better yet, think "is it really necessary to go through the stress, the expense, the logistics?"Some countries have a legal term for people who live together without being married. This term is acquired with time "common law partner", legally it has the same benefits and obligations as a legal marriage, but you don't spend a dime, you invest your time and love and on a day to day basis you know you are "married" and you're staying for the long haul.
