ALT-4 Worst Reasons to Marry
This journalist has been married several times, and out of those three time, twice I married for the wrong reason.I did not get married because of love, nor did I get married for companionship, and someone to share life's burdens with.My first two marriages, I got married for the worst reason above all.Children!
Though there are many bad reasons to wed, below I have listed what I believe to be the top five.
Children are by far the worst reason for a couple to marry. Marriage does not make people better parents, and if the two parents conflict, all too often marriage makes the partners worse parents.The children suffer the greatest consequences of their parent's lack of ability to coincide in a committed relationship.I am the mother of six children, and eight grandchildren, and through my personal experiences, I would have to say that Children is by far the worst reason that a couple can use to marry.My mother was also married three times, and as a child speaking from experience I can say that children are the worst reason to marry.And, sadly it is the main reason a majority of couples get married.
The second worst reason to wed is because of pressure by the proposing partner.If you say "yes" but want to set a long ahead date to wed, and your partner doesn't want to wait until you are ready, they are not the person to marry.
The third worst reason is because of outside influences.Meaning, if a person chooses to marry because their friends believe that they would be making a big mistake if they did not get married to your proposed partner. This same pressure can come from family, and on occasion a radio talk show host there to give you advice.If you are old enough to wed, and share the responsibility for another, then you are old enough to know when you are ready to honestly commit to your vows.
The fourth worst reason to marry is loneliness, or a fear of being alone.If you are so detached from yourself that you are seeking another to fill that void, you must know that you are choosing to take from another who they are to fill that void, and fear of them straying will consume you.Maybe, this should be the third worst reason.
The final and fifth worst reason to marry is because of money. Money has no heart, and in order to have a successful marriage the heart must be in it on both sides.There is no security in money, only the fear of knowing that it could all be gone in a flash, and that you can never have enough.
The final time I wed was nearly eight years ago, and I have been with my husband as his companion for the last thirteen, almost fourteen wonderful years.I married the man I married for all the right reasons.Sadly, I had to go through my first two marriages, put my children through so many hardships, before I learned ALL of the wrong reasons to get married.The man I am married to know has spent every day of our relationship trying to help me make up to my children for my poor choices.And because of his strength and love for me, I efforts have not fallen to the way side.
