ALT-4 Bridesmaids how to Deal with a Difficult Bride
We all know and love her: the sweet, rosy-cheeked, doe-eyed bride, masked behind a thin veil, dressed in pure white, gazing lovingly at her husband-to-be as she marches down the aisle on this, the happiest day of her life.
Unfortunately, there is another side to Mrs. Soon-to-be that not so many people have come into contact with prior to her glorious introduction at the church doors. It's the part of her that only bridesmaids, grooms, and close family members have seen: obsessed with wedding planning, buried under a stack of bridal magazines with virtually every page dog eared, and with little time for anything else but to delegate tasks to you.
If you are a bridesmaid with a bad case of bridezilla to handle, keep the following suggestions in mind when to help you cope with the tumultuous time between her engagement announcement and that vision of white I previously mentioned.
1. Be sensitive. Brides often transform into bridezillas when they feel like they are the only people in the world who care about whether the tablecloths are the exact shade of lavender as the flowers. Remind your bride that she is not alone, and do your best to, at the very least, sound interested when she is going on and on for hours about invitation designs.
2. Reassure her. Make sure you tell her what a wonderful job she is doing. Many brides may feel so overwhelmed they begin to question whether or not they will be able to pull off a 300 person wedding on a $20,000 budget. Reassuring her will certainly put her mind at ease, at least for a little while, so you can avoid any bridezilla blowups.
3. Remind her. The chaos of planning a wedding can often transform the most rational women into demanding, irrational, and very difficult to please brides. If your bride is giving you a hard time, remind her that you are doing all that you can (provided that you actually are) and that you want this day to be special for her just as badly as she does. Knowing that you are in this with her for the long haul will put most brides back into rational mode when they recognize what a great friend you are for giving so much of your time and effort to help create a memorable day for her.
4. Encourage her. Encouraging your bride to remember her prize, the groom, will certainly help her keep her focus on what this wedding is really about. It doesn't matter if the tablecloths do not match perfectly, or if your vendors are all late. If all her friends and family are with her to share the experience and have a good time, her wedding will be a success.
With so much to do, and seemingly so little time, Brides-to-be will undoubtedly have their moments of irrationality, irritability, and overall bridezilla-worthy behavior. Doing your best to divert her attention from the details and back to the main focus, her marriage, will certainly help keep your bride in check and free from diva demands.
