Why People Marry
When you find the love of your life, or you think you have found the love of your life, don't be hasty. Give it time. Don't settle for playing house, either. Get to know each other and see how well you can tolerate each others faults. Remember these will grow large as you and your mate trudge along together.
When you two are old enough and wise enough to give each other the rest of your life together, until death do you part, then get engaged and set a date. But still, no pretend housekeeping. Keep all that for the big day. Once you decide, make it your wedding and don't let inlaws dictate the conditions under which you can get married. Not unless they are paying for the wedding, lock, stock, and barrel, that is and you are willing to go along not only to things friendly, but for economical reasons.
The best reasons to marry is to want to live with that other person the rest of your life and that's that. If you cannot commit to that, then settle into a life of being with yourself. I know, I know, I sound old-fashioned and out of it, but believe me, once I was sixteen and had no idea what life was all about. But I remember thinking that once I got away from home and got married life would hold no more problems.
Life isn't like that, when you get married, you take on extra problems and they coming along every few years and add other problems and by the time you wise up, your little problems are all grown up and thinking as you did when you were their age. It is then that you understand how the game called life works and it never works in real life as it does in daydreams.
Other reasons to marry. Well maybe a good reason to marry is to give your children a father. Once you got the cart before the horse and there is no turning back, you wisely decide to go forward. Not the best reason to marry, but a very practical one.
I can think of no other, other than loving that other person enough to want to share you life with him/her. But whatever, it is not a frivolous choice. May God be with you in this decision and you are really going to need Him, and not just for the ceremony. You will be calling on Him quite a lot. He expects that. That's the big reason there's boys and girls so they can go forth and multiply. But not so faaaaast.
