Which Marriage Proposal is better – In person
"Is it better to propose marriage in a letter or in person?" is the question that is under debate. This article will argue in the affirmative for proposal in person.
“Will you marry me?”
What a wonderful question for any prospective bride-to-be, to receive from a potential groom!
A stately, but nervous, young man, gets down on one knee and timidly asks the ultimate question. Perhaps he is in amongst all those who have wondered, “Is it better to propose marriage in a letter or in person?” Instinctively, he knows that proposing in person is better.
“Will you marry me?” This is a timely question for any era, including ours. It is a question of the past and one of today; it will continue to be asked in the future.
What is the ideal way to propose marriage to someone who you love? Or, is there ever an ideal scenario for a marriage proposal? To answer this question, ask yourself, “If you were the prospective bride, how would you like to receive your marriage proposal?”
One must argue that for a prospective bride, an ideal marriage proposal would be one that comes directly from a potential groom, who is present at that time. The ideal marriage proposal also would include personal contact and the loving touch of one’s prospective mate. A letter can never have that personal contact and human touch.
At the same time, a mail proposal may be welcome, even when, or if it appears tp be cold or maybe even heartless, to a prospective bride. But who really wants to receive a proposal from someone, in the form of a letter? Maybe that is appropriate as a last resort, but otherwise, a bride really wants to be with her prospective husband, when he asks the question.
Love, hugs, kisses and caresses are an important part of any marriage proposal. In an ideal scenario, there is invariably a spark of love between the couple desiring to get married. This spark ignites a fiery passion and triggers the marital instinct in young people or even in those who are older. Lovers see and feel that spark in each other.
Being in close proximity to one another, or in intimate contact with the other, also arouses strong longings, desires and sexual feelings. These may not be present or immediately evident in a proposal made via a letter.
When they are together, it is possible for a future couple to share their hopes and dreams. This is just not the same, when trying to do that by mail.
The twinkle in the eye of lovers, gives evidence of mutual love, respect and admiration. It is only visible to the naked eye. It is difficult to portray this in letter format or even in a photograph, though it might still be evident, to some extent. Those who are in love have a certain glow about them. It attracts the lovers to each other.
Seldom, can everything that needs to be said in terms of marriage, be expressed in written words. Spoken words are so much better.
Few writers can really express the feelings of a couple wanting to be married. Appropriate expression is extremely important. Those really wanting to be married, experience intense feelings and can normally put them into words, spoken (or unspoken), when they are face to face.
There is warmth, comfort and a sense of presence, as well as a close personal relationship experienced by those who are together, when it is the right time for a marriage proposal.
There is also the immediate response factor that is not possible in a proposal that comes to a prospective bride in a letter. Electronic letters may be the exception.
There is the giving of the symbolic ring, the welcoming acceptance on the part of the bride-to-be and the mutual, joyous celebration, that often includes other family members or friends.
Who wants to miss all of that, particularly when the couple is ready and extremely happy about their plans for the future?
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At the same time, traditions and cultures vary in terms of marriage proposal practices and thus they do take other forms, particularly in terms of arranged marriages. There are times when 'in person' marriage proposals are not possible, because of distance, and in that scenario a proposal in the form of a letter may suffice.
Ideally, marriage proposals are in person.
