What to know when Visiting a Chinese Family for Chinese new Year
The Chinese New Year is a joyous occasion for celebration for Chinese the world over. It signifies the start of a new year, an occasion to celebrate the fact that one has survived another year. The custom of visiting friends and relatives during this period can be traced back to ancient times, when not everyone was expected to survive the harsh winter and it was customary to have gatherings after winter had passed.
So, what should one need to know when visiting a Chinese family during the New Year? Firstly , what to wear. During the Chinese New Year, the Chinese wear red to ward off evil and dress in new clothes, signifying a new beginning. For a non-Chinese visitor, although most modern Chinese families won't take offense (or profess to take offense) at his or her attire, it would certainly please your host if you turn up wearing red. There is no need for you to wear all red. Just something like a red top is good enough. Avoid wearing the colors black and white, as these are the colors normally associated with funerals and death.
Next, what to bring. Chinese families will expect gifts of mandarin oranges from visitors. These are always given in even numbers, which signifies good fortune. When giving the oranges, present them using both hands. This is to show respect. At the same time, wish your host good fortune. Something along the lines of "May you have good fortune." will do. Try to tailor your well-wishes to the family. E.g for a family where you know the host has had a history of health problems, "May you have good health", for a family running it's own business, "May your business prosper"
During the visit, there are certain conversation topics one should steer clear of. Topics like death and sickness are taboo. Should you find yourself in the unfortunate position of having to talk about it, try to convey your message without using taboo words and then move on to another topic.
E.g. Host: "How is your father?"Visitor: "He has moved on to a happier place"
When it is time for you to leave, if you have brought mandarin oranges for your host, your host will also have a gift of mandarin oranges for you. This is to signify the spreading and circulation of good fortune. If you are not married, or you have brought children with you on your visit, it is likely your host will also give you a red packet, with a small amount of money inside. The red packet represents your host's well wishes for you. Accept the red packet and mandarin oranges graciously, using both hands, at the same time exchanging well wishes with your host again. Do not attempt to open the red packet in front of your host, as it is considered rude.
Hopefully, this article, has given you a clear view of what to expect during a Chinese New Year visit.
