Unemployment Loneliness
Being out of work can feel incredibly lonely and shameful for many adults, especially those who pride themselves on working and providing for themselves and their families. Without working, there is usually very little money flowing in to bank accounts. If you want to attend movies, go out to restaurants, and attend events, money is required to participate in those events. If you want to live in a nice and safe home, money is required to maintain your residence. Being unemployed and not having money can make a person feel very vulnerable and frustrated. In a culture that values work and money, not having a job can also cause someone to feel very depressed. When you are out of work it is important that you reach out for help and remind yourself about all of the things that are going well in your life.
If you have breath in your body you can work again. It really is as simple as that; being alive means that you have chances to create income for yourself. There is no guarantee that you will get the exact same type of job that you had before, but there is no reason to believe that your job loss means that you are a failure at life. If you were fired from your job or laid off, you are not alone. It might help you to remind yourself that employment agencies exist for a reason, and the reason is because people sometimes need help finding jobs. Some of your friends and family members might start avoiding you because you are unemployed, but they are probably reacting that way because they feel afraid and awkward. Unemployment is a subject that few people want to talk about, but it is a fact of life. Try to stay positive when you are spending time with your friends and family members. Let your loved ones know that you are not the first person to lose a job, you won’t be the last, and your job loss does not have to prevent you from finding another job.
There may be events that you wish to attend but cannot afford to do so because you are fearful of spending money as an unemployed person. You have to be careful with each cent when you are not working; you can’t risk spending money on things you don’t need. Certain expenses like rent and grocery bills take priority over going out with your friends to nightclubs. Explaining to your friends that you can’t afford to go out can feel very embarrassing. Eventually, your friends might stop asking you to go out to events with them because they will expect you to refuse due to lack of funds. Having to tell your children that you can’t afford to buy them birthday gifts until you find another job can be heartbreaking, but try not to despair. The way you react to your job loss will affect your home; if you act depressed about your job loss, then your loved ones will pick up on your negative feelings and feel gloomy themselves. If you act as if you feel optimistic that you will find another job and be able to take care of yourself and your family, your loved ones will probably feel more hopeful.
Stewing in feelings of depression and isolation will not help you to find a job more quickly. The longer that you are unemployed, the less hopeful you might feel about getting back on your feet again. Getting over your embarrassment about being unemployed is the first step to take towards emotional recovery. Utilize every resource available to you that will help you feel encouraged. Take outself-help booksfrom your local library, build a relationship with a local church congregation that you feel comfortable with, and work on improving your work resume. There are resume and cover lettersamplesavailable on the Internet if you need help updating your own. Employment agencies and career counselors at colleges can offer encouragement and support to you while you are on your job search. Don’t isolate yourself; get out into your community and network with other people. Volunteer your time at a charity organization. Volunteering and taking an active role in your community can often lead to new job opportunities.
