Tips for second engagements
A second engagement can be just as exciting and nerve racking as the first one. There are some differences that might need to be addressed as well. For example if there are children from a previous marriage involved, then special steps have to be taken.
One of the biggest differences in a second engagement is that it is not the first. What this means is that it is best to plan the second weddingdifferentthan the first one. Keep this new engagement fresh and fun. There are some things you can do to get things headed the right direction, starting with the engagement.
One of the best things about getting engaged (besides getting engaged) is telling all of your friends and family. There are numerous ways to make this grand announcement. You can opt for sending out a written announcement, have a party, put it in the local newspaper or even make a radio announcement.
If there are children from previous relationships/marriages, then it is wise to talk with them before making a formal public announcement. That said, have fun when you make the good news known! You can make the announcement a very cheerful event.
As mentioned earlier, children from previous marriages should know about the engagement before anyone else. The reason for this is so that they are not taken by surprise in an unpleasant way. Children have thoughts and feelings and should be given the opportunity to express themselves regarding the engagement.
Along with the children, it is a good idea to talk with your ex(es) also. Your ex has a right to know who is going to be in his/her children's lives. If you are not on speaking terms with your ex, then try sending a certified letter or maybe try calling him/her. If you do speak in person, be tactful and respectful of feelings. The person might be your ex for a reason, but now is not the time to be petty.
Planning a wedding can be a lot of fun, it can also be very stressful. Take it slow and plan out each detail. You do not want to repeat a previous wedding. Think outside of the box and come up with things unique to you as a couple.
The engagement can last as long as you both want it to, there is no rush. Think the wedding plans through and enjoy planning together. After all, the engagement and future wedding mark the beginnings of a bright future for you both.
This cannot be stressed enough, be excited! Allow yourself to be giddy and silly and happy about your engagement. Show off your rings (if applicable) and practice walking down the aisle (yes it is supposed to be silly). Have fun telling everyone that will listen about your wonderful partner.
The phrase "second engagement" is just that, a phrase. You are going to get married to someone you love and want to build a life with them. Let this excitement shine through everyday.
The worst thing you can do, when it comes to a second engagement, is treat it like it is no big deal. It can be easy to be less excited the second time and that is sad. An engagement is cause for celebration and happiness.
When two people decide to become engaged, they are taking a big step toward their future together as a couple. It is important to talk it over with children and loved ones to let them know the happy news. It is also very important to put serious thought into the wedding plans. A carbon copy of one's first engagement and wedding would be a mistake.
