Tips for Hosting a Bachelorette Party
Sigh ... I'm much too old and out of shape, but just maybe .... A popular feature of bachelorette parties these free-wheeling days is to invite one or several male exotic dancers. So, please don't call me unless you enjoy looking at flab. Depending on your budget and sensibilities of the ladies of the audience, you can schedule several variations of the event.
For instance, when my niece, a PhD professor at the mature age of 35, was given a pre-wedding party by her women friends, the planner booked a very serious-looking visitor. The young man arrived in horn-rimmed glasses, wearing academic cap and gown, and toting a large scroll under his arm. The assembled audience, including my niece, thought he was delivering a written congratulatory document to her from her university colleagues. As he approached the honoree, he shed the gown with a great flourish, showing he was almost naked, and proceeded to dance around the honoree. There was considerable laughter and attempts by most of the dignified women present to dance with him. Of course, your surprise feature can be less spicy, such as a clown, singer, musician, disc jockey or other performer.
If your job is to host (or hostess) a bachelorette party, depending on the length of the guest list and scale of the party, your first task may be to get some help. Duties for you ... or if you're lucky enough to get a committee formed ... include determining the budget, selecting the site, date and time for the party, ordering the liquid and food refreshments and composing the guest list. If the bride-to-be is to be given one major gift, your responsibility is to determine something appropriate within your budget, and then order it. If engraving a message on the gift is necessary, you'll need to made sure it will be completed and delivered in time for the party.
Perhaps the most important duty will be to meet all aspects of the budget by collecting from invitees the necessary amount of money well in advance for all party expenses. Additionally, if the party is to be held some distance away from where most people live and work, an additional duty may be to set up ride shares or other transportation. After considering all of those duties, you'll certainly agree that it is both difficult and unfair for one person to take on the entire task. If you're the one responsible, select competent assistants and delegate fair amounts of the jobs to each of them.
Your duties will also require you to play spy chief. If necessary, you'll need to make sure that if the entire party itself is to be a surprise to the honoree, or if any elements (dancing guys) must be kept secret, be sure everyone involved is informed of your plan and pledges silence until the surprise moment occurs. Being a very old male, I hope you'll forgive me if I toss in the old cliche that if you want one person to learn your secret, telephone; if you want the whole world to find out, tell a woman.
If you're selected, or volunteer for the job, good luck in planning and presenting a very enjoyable and successful bachelorette party.
