Should you get an ex Girlfriend a Valentines Gift
If a person is trying to make amends with an ex-girlfriend in hopes of getting back together, a Valentine's gift can serve as a nice gesture, provided it doesn't backfire. However, if this isn't the case, why on earth would anyone do such a thing? This makes no sense!
Of course, this isn't to say that former partners that have gone their separate ways can't still be friends, but really, isn't a Valentine gift a bit much? There is a reason than an ex is called an ex: You've broken up! The relationship has come to an end. You are no longer romantically attached to the person. Provided a friendship still exists, its one thing to do your ex a favor. She might need help in moving that couch up to that third-floor apartment. Perhaps you let her use you as a reference on a job application, but as far as being obligated to give her gifts for Valentine's Day, let alone for Christmas or her birthday, you are off the hook, and have been since the two of you called it quits. It's as simple as that.
With the exception of kids in elementary school that are required to distribute Valentine's cards with or without attached lollipops to all of their classmates and general Valentine's Day greeting cards to friends and relatives, tangible gifts shoud be reserved for lovers, spouses, and their children. Ex-girlfriends are not a part of this equation.
Valentine's gifts are special and meant to be taken seriously, at least in the fresh beginnings of a relationship. Where long-time spouses are concerned, they're still expected and taken for granted, even if the flames of passion have become less than spectacular. But there is a point here: You're still married. However, giving a Valentine's gift to an ex-girlfriend would be akin to giving an ex-spouse you divorced ten years ago an anniversary gift!
Put simply, a girlfriend that becomes an ex-girlfriend has almost always earned that label because it has been determined that she is not the person you'd want to spend the rest of your life with after all. There can be many reasons such a revelation is discovered, but the recurring theme here can be summed up with just two words: You're through. So why would anybody even want to go through the trouble of shopping and spending hard-earned money on someone that is now out of their life? This defies logic.
Incidentally, this brings up another question. Suppose you've found a new female love interest. Do you really think she'd be cool with the idea of giving an ex a Valentine's gift in the first place?
