Rules for Small Talk during Holiday Parties
It's that time of year again. Time for last minute shopping, decorating the house, writing celebration cards to loved ones, and of course attending the Holiday parties. Whether the party is hosted by your work, your loved ones, or even yourself, you can be sure that there will be small talk between guests that are un acquainted or only met each other a few times. It can be quite daunting to talk to someone with whom you know nothing about. If you are very outgoing person you may not be overwhelmed with this possibility. If you are a shy person, the thought of meeting new people may weigh on your mind so much that instead of putting on your glam rags you put on your pajamas and stay home.
There are 10 big rules that apply to every person, outgoing or shy. If these rules are followed then the outcome will be the same; a great first impression, interesting conversation, and maybe new friendships.
1) Introduce yourself with a handshake and a smile. This will show people that you are open to a conversation.
2) Ask questions and listen to the answers. Ask questions like "Are you married?", "Any kids?", "Where are you from?", "Where do you work and do you like it?", "What do you like to do for fun?", or "How do you know Mr. Smith?". Listen attentively to the answers and ask follow on questions if necessary.
3) Don't talk extensively about yourself. Answers questions clearly and specifically and welcome the other person to talk about themselves. People will get the impression that you are interested in them more than yourself.
4) Find a topic of conversation you both connect on. Finding a common interest will add energy and strength to the conversation.
5) Always be positive and friendly. Being negative in your conversation may leave a bad impression. Make sure that you are always friendly to other people who join the conversation. Being positive will attract people to you.
6) Always be encouraging and complimentary. Encourage and compliment people whenever you can. This will make them feel very good about themselves and you will certainly acquire a likeability factor.
7) Be humble. Never brag or boast about any of your possessions or accomplishments. Edification should come from others, not from yourself.
8) Never use profanity or talk negative about other guests. You may be considered rude or a gossiper. If you talk negative about other guests, the other person may think you will talk negative about them too which may end the conversation prematurely.
9) If you are eating snacks, do not eat with your mouth full. The last thing you want to do is spit out food on the other person. If you have food in your mouth, wait until you have swallowed to continue the conversation or cover your mouth with your hand if you cannot wait.
10) Always use a polite way to end the conversation. Tell them it was great chatting with them or exchange contact information.
Enjoy your holiday parties and be successful at developing new friendships.
