Proposing Making Dreams come True – In person
Unless you are a man who was raised to appreciate and demonstrate his sensitive side, you cannot imagine the anticipation that every woman feels when she thinks about getting engaged.
For most women, the dream of getting engaged starts when she is a very young girl enthralled with the story about how mommy and daddy met, how they fell in love, the moment got engaged and how beautiful the wedding ceremony was.
Once that little girl is old enough to understand about romance, she starts dreaming of the day when it will be her.
As she grows older, the dream is refined to be more realistic but just as romantic.
For one young woman, the dream might be to be asked to go out to a surprise dinner. Her date will pick her up and they will ride slowly through the city and end up on the dock of some body of water. Moored at the dock will be a shining white yacht. The captain and the crew will be awaiting their arrival. As they board the captain introduces the primary members of the crew. After the introductions, the couple will be escorted to separate cabins to prepare for embarking on a romantic dinner cruise. As the couple are refreshing themselves, the yacht slowly moves out into the water and the boat starts gently bobbing along. Emerging from their cabins, they are greeted by a white jacketed waiter who escorts them to the deck where a table has been lavishly laid out with a delectable meal. With the sound of gently rolling waves in the background, the couple alternately eat and hold hands. After dessert and a glass of champagne, he takes her hand in his and asks her to stroll across the deck. At just the right place along the deck, he drops to one knee and asks her to share his life. As she gently says "Yes",she breaks into tears of joy.
For a different type of girl, it might be the traditional surprise restaurant proposal where her date will make reservations at her favorite restaurant and pick her up. Keeping up a facade of it being just a normal date, he doesn't act different than he normally would. After a nice dinner, he will request her favorite dessert be delivered to the table. Gently nestled on top of the dessert is a gorgeous engagement ring. Nervously, he will look into her eyes and ask her to marry him. She will say "Yes" and kiss him. The whole restaurant breaks into applause.
For most women, It's the romance and the little details that he adds to the setting that most women dream of experiencing.
It's that same romance that both of you will remember when you are older. Some of the little points may disappear in the fog of time, but the love will remain, the rememberance of the anticipation will remain with you and that special look in her eyes when she said yes will remain. The magic will always be with you.
Some men contemplate proposing by letter. A letter is useful for inquiring after the health of a friend. A letter is a good way to do business. But is it really suitable for proposing marriage?
No matter how well written, you cannot express the emotional passion for the woman of your dreams. Passion comes from your mannerisms, your eyes when you are talking, the way you hold your head, move your hands. The rise and fall of your voice as you talk, the closeness of your body.
If you propose by letter:
How will she feel when she and her friends are talking about their engagements and her friends talk about the romance of the proprosal? Will she feel cheated? Will she feel let down? Will she question your feelings for her in the quietness of her heart? Will she forever wonder if the your truly love and cherish her?
Yes, years in the future she may be able to read every word of the letter but words on a piece of paper can fall flat with the passage of time. Where will memories of the love and passion of the proposal come from? How detached will the memory be as she replays it in her mind? Will she question the honesty of your proposal? Will she think she entered into a business arrangement? Will she wonder why she said yes to someone who couldn't speak his feelings to her?
Is that the future that you want?
If you love your lady and want to spend the rest of your life with her, ask her in the most romantic way that you can. Do not give her any room to doubt you. Show her that you love her - give her a memory that will last a lifetime - make her dreams come true!
