Job Etiquette Acknowledging a co Workers Birthday
The joyous song, “Happy Birthday!” rings out across the work place as another birthday is celebrated. From somewhere in the room, a sour note resounds. It appears that some employees' hearts are not in the celebration. What is wrong?
“I am sorry, did they forget your birthday again?” whispers one employee to a fellow co-worker. It may not be fun when only certain birthdays are celebrated.
“How to Celebrate Birthdays in the Workplace”offers some suggestions for those wanting to acknowledge the birthday of a co-worker.
Birthday celebrations that are in good taste can enhance a workplace environment, but job etiquette with respect to co-worker’s birthdays is always important.
Acknowledging a co-worker’s birthday can be fun for everyone, but at the same time, not every co-worker wants to acknowledge, or have anyone acknowledge his or her birthday. A co-worker may not wish to disclose his or her age or personal information, like his or her date of birth. Some co-workers have religious preferences that do not include the celebration of birthdays. Perhaps others do not appreciate the extra attention from co-workers, especially if they tend to be shy or timid by nature.
Respecting personal preferences with regard to birthdays is important.
Every person has personal preferences with respect to celebrating his or her birthday. Learning the co-worker’s personal preferences regarding birthdays prior to a celebration is a good idea. Would he or she prefer a quiet, ‘Happy Birthday’ greeting or perhaps an appropriate birthday card? Is a birthday party, complete with a birthday cake and candles, in order? How would he or she react to a surprise birthday party? Could it result in a vale of tears?
Obtain permission from employers for birthday celebrations.
Before attempting to acknowledge any co-worker’s birthday, it is generally advisable to seek permission from the employer, particularly if there is a surprise birthday party planned. There should be positive, constructive directives regarding the extent of the celebration. Surprise birthday parties can backfire. If they tend to become rowdy or unruly, they may not always be appropriate in a professional work place.
Has the co-worker already made other birthday plans?
A co-worker may have made other plans to celebrate his or her birthday elsewhere and may prefer not to have his or her birthday acknowledged at work. Perhaps a few co-workers are invited, but maybe it is a family celebration only. Has the co-worker made plans for ‘a family and a few co-workers who are close friends only’ birthday dinner? He or she may not want to arrive there ‘partied-out’ already.
Is work the best place to acknowledge a co-worker’s birthday?
A work environment is not necessarily the best place for a birthday celebration, particularly when other workers tend to ‘over-do’ celebrations. Birthday parties can quickly become disruptive or get out of control, particularly if there is alcohol abuse. A celebration at a local pub or bar later, may be more appropriate. Maybe a quiet lunch is a good idea.
Be aware of other co-workers' birthdays.
Co-workers tend to be jealous of one another, so caution is important with respect to celebrating anyone’s birthday in a work environment. Is everyone’s birthday celebrated or just those of a select few? Is only management personnel allowed to celebrate birthdays at work, not the rest of the employees?
When planning a co-worker’s birthday party remember that while birthday celebrations can be wonderful, ideally, job etiquette must take precedence and what is fair for one is fair for all.
