Fired how to Assess your own Behavior
Time to collect yourself. You've just been fired and despite the reasons given for your termination, your head is in a crisis with all the 'why' questions. Moving on is difficult until there is some resolution.
It's not always easy after you've been told your services are no longer required. There is the matter of blame. It's easy to quickly finger the boss. It was a conspiracy or we just didn't get along. All sorts of scenarios might play out in your mind. Don't be too quick to judge based on your knowledge of your employer's shortcomings. It's okay to assume their judgment was flawed, but understand the decision is final. Time to move on.
It might be too difficult to assess what really happened. Denial can get in the way. Taking into consideration the reasons they gave you the 'heave ho' can help you move forward before similar mistakes can occur somewhere else.
Before quickly dismissing your firing as a bad managerial move, consider the reasons. Was it job performance, tardiness or absenteeism, or perhaps your behavior or choice of remarks? It's a tough pill to swallow, but if you can objectively put yourself in the shoes of your former boss, you might be able to see in part why the need to part ways.
Put some distance between you and your old life. Time can be a healing factor. You can't wade through all these thoughts now. Time to put a bookmark in this chapter of your life and jump to something else. Just don't keep this on the back burner for too long. Unemployment and idle time can be destructive.
You need to treat yourself to something of a mini vacation, family time, something you've long been denying yourself (within reason) just so you can move forward. Time to talk to old friends, people you love, your spiritual cheerleaders, and try to remember who you are. Recenter your world and get that aura back that makes you feel best.
Once you've done something for you, made a little deposit in the bank of your soul, it's time to reassess. Can you see things more clearly and objectively? Maybe, there is that friend at work whom you can now approach and ask what they think. They are only needed as a barometer. Take whatever they say objectively without using pressure to reason the 'why' questions.
In the rarest circumstances, we can leave a job on good terms. Firing isn't the end of the world and perhaps the lines of communication are still open. An exit interview isn't entirely out of the question, if you think your old boss is open to discussing the reason for your termination. It could be beneficial to both and a great way to get that referral for the next job.
Assessing your behavior and getting some resolution can help heal the wound of a firing. You may even find your next job to be more fulfilling, having grown from the experience.
