Domestic Engineers
Our society today seems to put so much emphasis on job title, money earned, size of your home, what possessions you have and all at the expense of the unassuming small child who is brought into the world. Let me ask a question. Why have children? Is it to brag to others that you did or to put some feather in your cap as you try to prod them to go on and do the things you did not do or is it because you want to love and nurture a wonderful human being into the world? How can you truly be an influence in the life of your child if you feel you have to farm them out to a nanny or day care center? Why bother bringing them into the world if in fact some other person is going to raise them and being the influence in their life?
Many people feel like they simply can not survive on one income. Maybe the issue is medical insurance. Whatever it is unless the wife has a job that pays a decent wage most of the money she will earn will go to pay for childcare anyway so what is the point of working? If it is to get away from your children then why did you have them in the first place?
One of the proved tragedies today is the broken home in our society and how it affects the children who are caught in the middle. Some of the broken home syndrome is due to affairs or feeling like a person is not in love anymore but allot I feel is due to the two parents working outside the home too tired for each other at a days end much less taking care of the children they brought into the world.
It is heartbreaking when I see the womens lib movement taking over common sense in deciding to remain a doctor, school teacher, lawyer or something the female trained and paid good money to earn a degree in. Why in fact some say should she not have her career after investing so much time and money into it? Why? Because the family unit is the most important and raising and having an influence on future generations is much more important I feel than proving you are somebody because you have a title beside your name.
Now recently Alaska Governor Sarah Palin proved she could do allot as a career lady and a mom and seemed to have it pretty much in order. Hers is the exception though not the norm. I admired her for what she was doing but she had a tremendous family support system as well.
Each persons case is different and unique and I in no way am here to condemn or judge but to try to simply encourage those trying to decide on what is important and what is best for them. The question is do you want to influence your child or do you want day care to?Simple as that.
My husband actually went so far as to get me my own business card for the stay at home mom so I could give it out to people when they asked what I did for a living. I have often heard you can reply to someone that you are raising leaders for the future. I do not regret that I did not go on and climb the career ladder to greater heights. There is no guarantee that your children will be perfect but they will certainly have a more stable and peaceful home life if you nurture them the proper way.
So yes call me a domestic engineer with many facets to my life. My children are now adults and I miss those days of helping them and being there for them. I can encourage any young woman trying to decide what to do to realize your children are only home for just a short while and you can always try a career in mid life. Relationships are more important than money. Downsize and make yourself accept a smaller home, a less expensive car and your rewards will be much greater in the long run.
