Dealing with Abusive Bosses
Abusive bosses are what they are in some cases. Though they may have rights in the way they handle their employee's, it still does not mean they must become harsh in their ways, nor should they be able to abuse anyone who works for them.
I am a boss and have found that being sweet and friendly does not always work when it comes to an employee - boss relationship. More often the boss ends up abused by poor workmanship from their employees due to the lack of respect for a boss and his or her title in its entirety.
Being stern and respectful as a boss does not always occur. Many bosses abuse their title as well as their control over employees who have never done wrong in the first place.
Sometimes in order to deal with these types of bosses, you must just overlook them and still act with the utmost respect towards them. Sometimes there is nothing you can do because there are some bosses who know the very boundaries when it comes to verbal and physical abuse. They more often taunt you within borderline limitations as to avoid misconduct or civil binding suits that could put them out of their job or ownership when it comes to business.
Any confrontation that you feel is liable to get this boss off your case does not always benefit your current and long term employment status. If a boss wants to get rid of you in order to end the battle that you never started in the first place, then they generally will. If you feel that questioning the boss is just as suitable, there again, you are looking to shorten your employment status. Anytime you pose a treat to a boss, you should start seeking a new job elsewhere.
Most of the time, you may choose to remain respectful no matter how much your feeling become bashed or confused. If prolonged respect seems apparent to this boss, more and likely they will leave you alone and go on to someone else to seek that abuse they so much need.
Abusive bosses always end up with a double win situation. There is that leverage they have when it comes to your current and possible long or short term employment and they always play off this for the most part. This must be their way of feeling the absolute control over another human being.
If this boss is not the owner of a company, then perhaps going to the owner or the human relations department is the only option you have. Please beware, there again, your employment term may become shortened because of a complaint you have over someone who is more qualified and never questioned as to their very actions. Briefly, the boss is usually believed over you because the simple fact remains,.....he or she is the boss.
I would fight fire with fire, breaking this boss down with more respect than what he intended to receive. Most bosses who target you are not looking for respect, they seek friction, insubordination and a reason to terminate or even shorten your employment status.
The reality is, if you have an abusive boss and he or she has been there and done that, then perhaps you do not have a leg to stand on. Try not to make it an effort in resolution, for even a resolution could put you out of a job.
Either just bite your tongue and respect, or quit. More and likely if this boss is abusive, he or she has been doing it the whole time. They will continue to do it no matter what and if they are the boss- owner you may have to forget any hope of trying to resolve the issue.
