ALT-6 Best Reasons to Marry
Growing up I never planned my wedding, my days consisted of daydreaming of traveling around the world and having international romances. When this came true, i only wanted to travel more. I would speak to girls at my university and they would talk about marriage, almost as if it was more for status, than it was for the pleasure of being with the person.
Thoughts crossed my mind, "Am I normal if I do not think about it in detail? Should I start?" I started dating a man in my freshman year of university and it was going well, and without really thinking about it we inched towards the big "M" word. Maybe it was my fear, or maybe it was the fact that we were completely not right for one another...our relationship started to fall apart.
The first time ever I had opened up to the idea of marrying someone, and found out I would have preferred to leave the door shut to that part of my life. Things crossed my mind that had never before, maybe I was ready for marriage.
By my junior year in university I had sworn it off, again there were no thoughts of marriage. When girls would be sharing their stories, I would think and try to imagine what mine would be like. Something simple, that was all I could come up with. I started to doubt that I would find someone that I could truly share myself with, let alone life with.
One of my guy friends introduced me to a website for dating, I found his page and started to look the whole website over. Amused I thought to myself, "I could never find someone online..." The saying that life makes unexpected turns, applies greatly here. Someone certainly had fun with this part of my life and it was not me, I was shocked to find someone normal.
He was everything I was looking for, but I could not admit that. I eventually met him and we just clicked, it was meant to be. I never believed in predestined greatness, but I could not shirk the fact that it just felt right. I had plans, plans I was not about to give up.
"it is just a new budding relationship," I thought, " You just like the newness and excitement. Just wait for reality to hit, once you are seperated by numerous states and who knows what else."
I struggled, wanting to end the relationship, but I found myself so happy and feeling closer to him than anyone I had in a long time. I was so scared, pushing him away as hard as I could, but he did something no other guy had ever done...he perservered. Shocked I gave in, knowing before I left I was in love.
We were apart for five months, all of which I am grateful for and think about often. I needed more experiences in my life and he was not going anywhere. I needed to be able to believe in someone again and believe in something stereotyped in my mind as a failed quest.
The best part about getting married to him is the fact that I am totally in love with him and I believe and have faith in something again. The feeling of trusting in someone is so much better than resentment. Those are the best reasons to get married.
