ALT-4 Best Reasons to Marry
Marriage to me was always scary. I watched my mother marry and divorce three times. I was not hasty in getting married, that's for sure. I didn't want to get married to get divorced. For me, divorce is not an option. So how on earth do you make sure, you don't make the same mistake?
I recently celebrated my six year anniversary. My husband and I are closer than when we first met. Our marriage is beautiful and we are more in love than before. How did this happen? Well here are my reasons on how I knew that this was the man for me and how he knew I was the woman for him. We have had our difficulties obviously, who doesn't but we love each other and are best friends.
There is one extremely important question that you need to ask yourself before committing to marriage:
Can I see myself with this person in forty years time?
Are we still going to hold hands in forty years time?
Then you need to ask yourself, can I live without this person, if the answer is no, then he or she is the one.
You see my husband and I split up before we got married and we both suffered from insomnia and depression once we were separated, this is how we knew we were meant to be together. We literally needed one another.
The 'in love' feeling isn't enough to decide on marriage alone. You have to see if you are compatible in hobbies, interests, philosophies, parenthood and so on. You also have to agree that divorce is not an option and should you argue, know that you will get through the tough times.
Know that marriage is work, dedication, consistent effort and it is not like the movies. It isn't all romance and butterflies. You have to love the person you have found no matter what, for better or for worse.
So ask yourself, if your man suddenly goes broke, he can't afford to pay rent, will you stay with him and support him.
What are your tolerance levels? I know some people who have no tolerance levels and are fifty years old and are still single. There is no perfect person, so accept that. But learn to love the person you have found! Love is sometimes a choice!
What happens when your wife gets a little sloppy and doesn't put make up on everyday? Suddenly she forgets to clean the house or iron your shirt? Will you still love her?
There are so many reasons, so many aspects to look at in terms of marriage. I would recommend pre marriage counseling for everyone who wants a long lasting marriage.
You also need to look at your beliefs, goals, values and morals, are they the same?
Then there is attitude, do you have the attitude of not ever giving up, or will you drop him at the sight of a problem?
My reason for marrying my husband as well as his reason is that we both have all the same things in common. We are like minded and we simply need each other. He is my other half and I am his. We are best friends, and if your partner is not your best friend, then maybe you should investigate this.
Marriage is beautiful! It is what you make it, and if you truly love him or her for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, then do it, you won't regret it!
