ALT-3 Tips and Ideas for the Grooms Toast
I haven't been to a wedding in a long time. But the last two family members that have gotten married did not have an American style reception. My uncle Van got married in 2003 and it was a Chinese style reception so there was no groom's toast. My uncle Mao got married in 2004 and it was a Vietnamese style wedding and reception, so there was no groom's toast.
However, my uncle Tim got married in 1998. His wife is American and they had both an American style wedding and a reception. I'll use this as an example. I don't remember if there was a groom's toast or something, but his best friend Steve who was best man gave a toast.
Within the last few years, Steve became very religious. His toast was talking about a triangle with my uncle, his wife, and God being components of that very triangle. Nearing the end, Steve told my uncle the closer he gets to God, the closer he and his wife will be together. A good premise, something religious could work if you and your wife are very religious.
For the love of all that is sacred, do not make a very long toast. All of that is going to do is annoy the daylights out of the attendee. And yes, how your reception goes is going to have a prolonging effect. Make it longer than a minute but no-longer than about five to six minutes. For a small speech.
Doesn't hurt to take a drink or two, but don't overdo it or you'll make an idiot of yourself. That would suck if you have to spend your wedding night on the couch.
Come up with some psalms or passages that are relevent. Or come with a poem. If you suck at poems, find someone to do it for you.
Keep in mind, it's a special day for you and your wife. Most definitely your wife. The best way for a toast is to say it from your heat. Just say it as it is. But if your toast is retarded, get some help. There are plenty of people willing to help you come up with a toast.
Nobody wants to see the groom mess up the toast unless they are people with ulterior motives.