ALT-2 What to do on Valentines Day without a Date
Enjoyment and appreciation of Valentine's Day doesn't have to depend upon having a date. Of course, it's wonderful to share that time with someone you love, though it's not a necessity. At the end of the day, Valentine's Day is just another day, though can be one devoted to the wonder of love rather than the relishing of it with someone special. At any age, people find themselves alone. On Valentine's Day, if you find yourself without a date, get into the spirit of the celebration by taking the following steps.
Celebrate the love of others
Those people who are friends and family who have successful relationships are a reminder of what Valentine's Day is all about. These are people who hold themselves up as great positive examples of what love can really be like. Visit those members of the family who remind you that love exists. This takes away the negativity you may be feeling, and helps you to enjoy being in the company of people who demonstrate that love really does work. Enjoy these people. They are usually warm and friendly people who understand that being alone on this special day is a little hard, and will welcome you. Take a posy of flowers and a nice card, and relish their love for each other.
Celebrate who you are
On the evening of Valentine's Day when others are having a romantic dinner, treat yourself. Showing self love isn't selfish. Celebrate who you are by treating yourself to a special dinner, followed by a great movie and a box of your favorite treats. Just because the other half is missing doesn't make you incomplete. The problem is that people have this psychological idea that the other man's grass is always greener and that those who have a partner to love are better off. In truth, often those who are independent find a freedom of choice couples can ill afford.
Compromise within a relationship often means that couples can't do the things they want to do. As a single person alone on Valentine's Day, celebrate you. Pamper yourself with a few exotic treats, such as beauty treatments and a hot tub of bubbles. Listen to music that makes you feel good, and spend the day pampering yourself. That perfect date may not have been around today, but when someone loves themselves, they open the door to multiple possibilities for the future. They are more confident, happier with who they are, and thus able to offer more to a potential relationship for the future.
Celebrate the idea of love
Take out all those old CDs and bask in love, though not the sentimental type which exaggerates your loneliness. Listen to those songs which speak of real love, depth of feelings and which were written to convey that positive nature of love. Bask in the notion that “Somewhere over the rainbow” there is that special person but that you just haven't found them yet.
Take out a great love story in movie format, and enjoy the interaction of actresses and actors on a screen. Some are hilariously funny, some sloppy and sentimental, but all a reminder of Valentine's Day. Look for movies which celebrate love, and enjoy the portrayal of it on the big screen. To bring the day to a close, that movie is a reminder of all the possibilities of love, and what it may offer in the future.
Having a date on Valentine's Day isn't that important in the order of things. It's one night, and although friends may have their dates, it doesn't make you less of a person that you don't. In fact, often the best things in life are worth waiting for. Be positive, and enjoy the sentiment behind the celebration, rather than being introspective and concerned about failure. The problem with those who dwell on the negative is that this tends to impose self esteem issues which get in the way of finding romance. Loving yourself and celebrating who you are, this places you in a much better and stronger position, so that next year, perhaps that special someone will be there, and love you for the confident and happy person that you are.
