ALT-2 Arranged Marriages – Good
If one who has been born and raised within a Western environment is asked this question, the answer tends to be a rather emotional “arranged marriages are terrible” and a whole explanation that explains everything but why. The Western culture perceives arranged marriages as a terrible and forced arrangement made by the parents of a young boy or girl. At the same time, they believe arranged marriages are any marriages in which a persons parent's have a definite say in. My question: Why is that having your parents involved and have a say in who you spend the rest of your life with is so terrible?
Arranged marriages are no longer what they used to be hundreds of years ago. No where are there parents marrying off their tiny 12 year old children to other children based on wealth. However, that is indeed the history of arranged marriages. A typical arranged marriage in the present time is one in which the young boy, who is preferred to be at least 21 years of age, comes to the house of the girl with his parents and there both families unite and see how they communicate not only with their future daughter or son in-law but also with their families. Why? Because marriage isn't just the uniting of two people but the uniting of two families. Yes, the final decision rests in the palm of your parents hands in this case. The only reason your parents would even disagree with the engagement is if they find a reason to dislike the boy. All through your life you hear and believe that when your parents do something, it's for the best. Why should this time be any different? Having your parents say in your marriage won't hurt it in any way. In fact, if they react to you in a positive manner, you'll find yourself having a grand wedding – the wedding of your dreams.
Arranged marriages are no longer meant to be done as they used to be. The modern meaning of an arranged marriage in any culture is having a parents consent in one's marriage decision. These are the people who raised you, fed you, helped you, and love you. They wouldn't want to hurt you. Their desire is to see you be more than happy for the rest of your life. And if you're going to spend the rest of your life with someone else, they want to make sure prior to engagement that this person is someone who can love you and satisfy you and more ways than they ever could.
