ALT-20 Best Reasons to Marry
Beauty fades, money always seems to get spent, but a true love is a rarity that lasts forever, perhaps even beyond death. Everyone has individual reasons why they marry, but from a position of objectivity there is only one good reason - you are in love and cannot stand the thought of what life would be like without that person by your side. To consider marriage for any other reason, especially those such as financial considerations or based solely upon physical attractiveness, expose a fault in character that will eventually be revealed and will endanger the longevity of any relationship. The basis of a good marriage is rooted in who the participants are, not by what they have in terms of material goods or stunning appearance.Within the concept of true love, there are literally thousands of variants that compose true happiness. While not all of them need to be present for a loving and successful marriage, there are certain components that are absolutely necessary for the long term prosperity of a relationship. Among these are are compassion, affection, respect and a sense of humor to mention the 'short list". These ingredients in the relationship are what gets married couples through the rough times, and without them problem resolution as a team is impossible. Couples eventually gravitate away from one another, and the mentality of "why bother, there is no us" takes over, and can easily lead to the demise of a marriage.Seemingly lost in the reasoning to marry, is the importance of being "in like" as well as being "in love". Liking your potential lifetime partner is imperative to getting along beyond the first year of marriage. While personalities of a couple do not need to match, they do require some common ground that can be shared as a couple. This establishes a couple's position on how they view life and live together as a comprehensive unit, with a goal directed at the common good of both people. A married couple that is in love but are not best friends are in for any number of pitfalls, most notably a diminished ability to share thoughts honestly, without fear of being admonished for their beliefs.The best reason to marry is a simple one and can be validated with a simple question - "Can I see myself being beside this person 50 years from now?". If the answer is a resounding yes, head for the minister. If the answer is no, head for the door. A maybe is as good as a no.
