ALT-1 Flower Girls Role
The primary role of the flower girl at a wedding is to be little and cute and inspire a few “aw”s from the guests. Usually she makes her adorable way down the aisle just before the maid or matron of honor and drops flower petals on the bridal path – though there are plenty of alternatives if you don’t want her dropping rose petals. Since flower girls are usually somewhere between the ages of three and eight, getting them to feel comfortable about their role in the big day with all eyes on them can be a bit of a challenge.
If you are not crazy about the idea of dropping rose petals on the path for whatever reason, lots of people choose to have the flower girl carry a bouquet of flowers or blow bubbles on her way down the aisle.
Many flower girls, being of a very tender age, get a little bit nervous on the big day when they find all eyes on them. It can be very intimidating to be a little person looking up at all those faces who are looking at you. To help flower girls shaking their pre-wedding jitters, you can make sure that the flower girl is included in lots of activities with your bridesmaids. This way, they see friendly faces that they recognize at the end of the aisle. You may even want to assign a bridesmaid to take your flower girl down the aisle by the hand or carry her if she starts to panic.
It’s also a good idea to have more than one flower girl, particularly if your flower girl is very young or very nervous. Having a buddy to walk down the aisle with will make your little lady feel more at ease. If there is no other flower girl, consider having her walk down the aisle next to the ring bearer if there is one. You may also want to consider seating her parents close to the front and on the aisle where she can easily see them. Focusing on those faces as she walks down the aisle will help her shake the nerves.
It is important to make your flower girl feel as though she is an important part of your special day, but you don’t want to emphasize the importance of the role so much that you make her anxious. Keep everything lighthearted and tell her how much you appreciate her contribution to your big day.
